It feels good to give, but that’s never true for your personal power. What’s yours, and whether you know it or not, you are likely to be giving it up every day.
7 Ways Personal Power is Lost
- Being Passive
The only time it is acceptable to be passive is when you really don’t care. Letting people treat you like a doormat will drain your energy. Have enough personal power to stand up for yourself. Otherwise, people will keep on putting you down.
- Giving Your Inner Critical Voice Mind Space
Be aware of your consciousness because that’s the critic that will drain you the most and keep on taking. If you find this becoming problematic, reinforcing affirmations are the weapon to use to halt it.
- Toleration of Manipulation
Manipulators will keep on taking if you let them. People who constantly take with zero reciprocation are a drain on your energy. You have the power to decide to get away from that situation.
- Trying to Please Everyone
You cannot be everything to everyone. You can be your best by your standards. Take actions that feel right to you and don’t try to into the norm of society to please everyone else.
Please yourself. Not society.
- Being Judgemental
You may not be a judgemental person, but you are not immune to making snap judgments. Other people can influence your behavior if you let them. Office gossip, friends talking down about someone else or neighbors talking about a new person moving into the house across the street. Those seemingly innocent conversations can bring about negative energy, influencing your behavior around new people you meet.
- Being Apologetic without Cause
The time for sorry is when you know you have made a mistake. Not when you need someone’s attention. For that, excuse me will do the same job. An easy way to be aware of your apologetic language is to make it a rule never to follow “I’m sorry” with “but.” I’m sorry but… contradicts the apology.
- Focusing on Heartless Goals
This one needs some careful life planning to make sure you don’t fall victim to it because it is a massive barrier to attaining personal power.
An abundant life is more than your career. Life goals are about helping you reach your dream life. Not about what work will make you rich so you can buy material things to satisfy an ego. Focus on lifestyle goals that include family, relationships, finance, health, career – Inner satisfaction. Otherwise, you will continue working monotonous jobs, keep giving personal power away to unsatisfying relationships, and waste money trying to satisfy the need to fill a void.
How to Get Others to Help You
Reaching your peak is best done with the help of others. Nobody can go it alone. You need support, mentorship at times, companionship, and friendship. None of that will be easy without knowing how to understand people first.
Gaining personal power is a journey into finding yourself, discovering what drives you, finding the motivation, your life’s purpose, your mission. It is a lifelong journey. Others have yet to start their self-discovery adventure.
To get ahead and reach your goals, you will need people around you to support you and help you grow
4 Rules that Lead to Others Helping You Get Ahead in Life and Gaining personal power
- Be Good at Something
People value people who are valuable. Being good at something makes you valuable. You become an asset to others. There is more to learning enough about anything to become good at it though, not just the skills. It’s the practice it takes to get good. That takes discipline and commitment, which are both strong traits to develop in yourself.
- Listen to Both What People Say and How
Body language can tell you more about how a person feels more than the words they use. The hardest part is hearing what you are told when it doesn’t feel comfortable.
Listen attentively to all your critics because those people care. When people stop giving you constructive criticism, it could mean they have given up telling you that you’re doing something wrong, or they may feel you don’t care. Anyone can listen to criticism. Not everyone can accept it and say ‘you are right!”.
- Apologize When You Make Mistakes
When you do wrong by someone – no matter how big or small a mistake you make – be accountable. Apologize with sincerity. Saying ‘I’m sorry’ isn’t always sufficient. If it’s a huge mistake, that should be followed by what you plan to do so it never happens again.
People value honesty and integrity. Show them you are accountable and own your errors. It’s part of being human.
- Find the Best in Everyone You Interact With
There are no good people and bad people. Good people make bad decisions. Some learn from them fast, others it can take years of constant inner conflict before they realize they need to sort their life out. Pessimists can change their attitude, and people you feel have the worst intentions, can surprise you.
Be valuable, a good listener, accountable, and always look for the good in everyone. You will radiate positive energy, and that will make you approachable. Then, people will be open to helping you.