So you decide to step out of your comfort zone and become better in any and every aspect of your life.
Awesome decision! Congratulation 🙂
Here is the best advice I can give you if you want to start with self-improvement
Before you start with your self-improvement journey, you must find your “WHY.”
Why do you want to start with your self-improvement journey?
Why do you want to step out of your comfort zone and take action?
If your “why” does not affect you emotionally (we like to say if it doesn’t make you cry), then it may not be a big enough reason to motivate you to create a better you. Therefore, make your WHY genuinely heartfelt and large enough so that it ignites passion and intense emotion behind your dreams. These emotions will inspire an urgent need in you for self-improvement.
Here are the 10 ways which will help you to become more confident, with more self-esteem, with more energy and positivism
You can’t do all of them at the same time. Start with the easiest one, and when you achieve it (become better in this field), start with another, and so on. Don’t stop until you have finished your self-improvement journey and you are satisfied with the results of better you.
#1. Commit to your self-improvement and personal growth
Your journey for self-improvement starts with your commitment to yourself. So you must start with this one.
Commit to yourself that you will work on your self-improvement every day.
Stay in front of the mirror, put your right hand on the heart, and looking at yourself, say what you want to be to the end of some period. For example, you can say:
I (your name) commit that no matter what, I will work on my self-improvement until …..
It may look ridiculous initially, but you will see how your confidence will rise every day. No one except you is responsible for your self-improvement. Read this article and pick one task which is the best to start with according to you. Practice it every day, starting with your long journey for personal growth. Don’t expect immediate results. Stick with your wish for self-improvement, and you can see positive changes in your life and yourself.
Remember, You are the only person who can start your personal growth. Create the strategy, work on it every day and take your commitment seriously.
#2. Take responsibility for all your actions, wins, and failures
You must take responsibility for all your actions, wins, and failures. You must take time and found your victories and mistakes and analyze them. Deeply in yourself, look for the reasons for your errors. Why did you react that way, what motivated you, how did you feel at that moment. Write on paper your thoughts and feelings. Find them and create a plan for their improvements. How will you react the next time, what will you change in your actions and attitude, what will you feel when you repair your mistake and transform it into a win.
Learn from your mistakes and failures, but learn from your wins too.
Analyze your wins and find a way to improve them.
Taking responsibility for your actions will increase your conses.
With every new victory, you will increase your self-esteem and your confidence.
#3.Focus on your words
Your words and thoughts are such powerful things and can directly affect every aspect of our lives. If held in a positive context, they can provide hope and empowerment. If used negatively, they can steal and destroy the things we value so much in our lives. I realized that in my life, I had nothing that resembled a success. Later I found it was because my vocabulary was riddled with regular use of negative words that resulted in negative thoughts or vise versa. I had created a terrible habit that needed to be corrected. This was not something I could do in a day or two or even a couple of weeks. It took practice, a conscious effort over some time. This was a real challenge; however, once I changed my vocabulary, I started to see tiny sparks of positivism in my life.
“Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world.”― The Buddha
Words we say to others are very powerful, but what about the Self-Talk?
– These are the words we use that affect our moods and everything in our day. We are not the only ones affected; it affects others in our lives. (Our families, our peers, and even co-workers).
My Challenge To You – Remove the Following Vocabulary in your journey for Self Improvement
1. Can’t – The use of this word is primarily why many hopes and dreams are never achieved or seen. The elimination of this word completely will positively change your life in so many ways.
2. But – “But” negates whatever statement that precedes it. For example, “I want to quit my job but……. Your mind does not focus on quitting your job and only sees the income, hard work, and time needed to achieve the goal of quitting your job. Replace “but” with “And.”
3. Should – Whenever you use the word “should,” it generally creates a sense of guilt. For example, “I should go swimming” makes you feel guilty for not swimming. Instead, replace the “should” word with “choose,” as in, “I choose to go swimming, or I choose not to go swimming today.”
4. Maybe – This word indicates indecision, doubt, or uncertainty about a course of action. For example, in “Maybe I’d better wait to …” replace “Maybe” with “I will” or “I will not.” “I will” or “I will not” emits feelings of confidence, sounds like the more positive words, and resolve what are so crucial to our well-being.
5. Soon or Later – Both are non-committal and indefinite references to time. Replace these words with a definite time and date. Imagine what could happen to your integrity and deadlines when these words are used frequently. When you use I’m going to do something “soon” or “later,” no one can determine when whatever it is will get done.
6. Someday – Someday is the same as sooner or later. When it is used, it shows the lack of commitment and is much too indefinite. Replace “someday” with a specific time and date.
7. Never – This word is absolute in the negative context. Replace the word “never” with a non-absolute term
8. Won’t – The word “won’t” implies reluctance, an unwillingness, or closed-mindedness, and it is pretty harmful because, like others negative absolute terms, it decreases our self-confidence and closes the doors to our self-improvement
9. If – This is a small word that carries excellent doubts and puts huge limitations on our belief system, and when used often, it decreases our confidence and intended actions, which are necessary for any success.
10. Try or (I’ll Try) y) – Replace “I’ll try” with “I’ll do my best” or “I will.”
These words must be given serious thought before using them in our “self-talk” or our conversations with others. Because words hold so much power, they can influence the way people view us, our business, and our opinions of ourselves as well as what we
#4. Know your priority goals for any day
Every night before you go to sleep, write your goals for the next day. Then, when you wake up, read and focus on them. You’ll be more ready and energized to fulfill them because of a specific focus. Do not allow anything to distract you until those targets or goals are accomplished. This will help you feel better every day and, it will boost your energy for anything else you want to finish that day because you will be proud of fulfilling the goals and keeping your word with yourself. You will find the journey for self-improvement excited and you will feel better every day.
I practice this every day, and this helps me a lot in everyday to-do tasks. I write every task I plan to finish the next day and checked one by one as I finish it or at the end of the day. Don’t overload yourself with so many jobs. Write only the most important ones for the next day – the ones you plan to finish.
If you can’t finish them for some reason, write them again for the following day. But be careful with this and take care of this to not become your habit.
#5. Stop comparing yourself with the others
You must know that you are unique. No one is like you, and you can’t be like the others. Your success is maybe more significant than the others, but if you constantly compare yourself and your life to other people and their lives, you will develop destructive habits and a lot of negative feelings.
How to stop comparing your job, car, house, relationships with others? How to control yourself when these thoughts come to you?
Here are some tips you can use to stop comparing yourself to others and improve your self-development.
Focus on your achievements. Compare yourself with yourself and try to be better and better every day.
Don’t be jealous of your friend’s or neighbor’s car, house, job…
Instead, think about yourself and how you can improve yourself. It is tough to think positively about yourself and looking for ways to improve yourself while you don’t have anything. But according to the law of attraction, you attract what you think about. So, according to that law, if you compare yourself with wealthy and successful people, you will attract poverty because you see yourself as poor.
#6. Educate yourself
There are a lot of self-improvement books on the market.
For me, Wallace D. Wattles, Napoleon Hill, Og Mandino, and Joseph Murphy are the best. I have read almost all their books several times. But this is my opinion. For you, maybe other authors will be better. So try and find some inspiration books which will motivate you and help you achieve all your goals.
Don’t read the books automatically. There are a lot of exercises in these books. Try to practice them.
Educate and improve yourself in your profession continually too.
Do you know which are the secrets to success, according to T. Harv Eker?
1. Learn something
2. Do it
3. Learn more about it
4. Do it as an improvement
One thing we can always count on is change. Unfortunately, life is predictable in that nothing stays the same. Our mission is to try to keep the “train on the track” so that things keep changing in a positive way that makes things better for those we care about.
If you need additional help, you can join some self-improvement courses.
5 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF IF YOU REALLY WANT TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE
You could set some time aside to meditate on them, or alternatively, you could write on a journey to keep a record of how you feel.
- What do I really want? Just for myself.
- What has to happen to create change?
- What steps of inspired action am I willing to take?
- How much pain will I experience if I don’t change?
- How can I be of service?
Once you’ve written down how you feel, make sure you regularly check back in with yourself to make sure you’re taking action.
#7. Stop worrying about everything and take actions
One of my favorite quotes is courtesy of Craig Ballantyne, editor of Early to Rise.
We all go through challenging times, and I urge you not to be paralyzed by anxiety and worry. Worrying about a problem does not do anything to solve it or make things better. Everyone has bad days, weeks, months. Life is not always great.
Figure out a plan of action and take the first step.
Take ACTION to Supercharge Your Success.
“When you get into a tight place, and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hang on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and the time that the tide will turn.” Harriet Beecher Stowe
Here are some tips which will help you when you will have some of these days, weeks, months
Keep the gratitude journal
I mentioned above that one of my favorite authors is Wallace D. Wattles. In his book The Science of Getting Rich, he stated
“The grateful mind is constantly fixed upon the best; therefore, it tends to become the best; it takes the form or character of the best and will receive the best.
Also, faith is born of gratitude. The grateful mind continually expects good things, and expectation becomes faith. The reaction of gratitude upon one’s own mind produces faith, and every outgoing wave of grateful thanksgiving increases faith.
It is necessary, then, to cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you; and to give thanks continuously.
And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.”
I have kept the gratitude journal for years. When you write in, it involves your feelings. Imagine the excitement you had at the moment when you think about gratitude.
If you only put the staff on the list without emotion, you will fail with this task. Also, you can’t think about gratitude once a week and forget about them the rest of the time. You have to be grateful every day and think about it continuously. What have you been grateful for?
You can be grateful for everything you have in your life
You can be grateful for every success, every small or significant action, every new friend, every finished task or to-do job,
Also, you can be grateful for your home, your family, the food you, the water you drink, your health, sight, speech,…
Here is Gratitude Journal Download it and try to keep it every day
Focus on “to-do things to improve the situation” rather than on “why this happened to me.”
Ask yourself what you can do to improve the situation. If you spend time thinking about your bad luck, you will be depressed and without motivation for self-improvement.
By asking yourself a question
How can I improve this situation?
Where can I start from?
What steps and actions can I take?
You are looking for the answer on how to improve your life.
And with the action, you work on solving the problem and gain more confidence and self-improvement.
#8. Overcome your fears
Having fear is normal for everyone. It can keep you safe by warning you of potentially dangerous situations. However, they become a problem when they affect your functioning. In that cases may experience intense nervousness or anxiety.
Irrational fears are dangerous and can ruin your self-confidence and inner power. Notice how much they change your functioning and your life. Ask yourself Do your fears keep you from moving forward with what you want in your life?
You have to take immediate action if
Your fear causes intense panic or anxiety
You know that your fear is not reasonable and rational.
You fear to make you avoid specific situations or places
The fears have persisted for more than six months.
Here are some tips on how you can help yourself
Face your fear
Don’t avoid situations that scare you. Avoiding these situations, you will stop doing things you need or want to do. Instead, test out if the case is always as bad as you expect. Work out to manage your fears. You can overcome your fears by exposing yourself to them.
Work more on yourself. Keep a diary and write down when fear happens, how, what were your feelings? Read it from time to time and find your trigger.
Learn relaxation techniques like breathing deeply or imagining yourself in a peaceful place, yoga, massage, or meditation. Relaxation techniques can help you with the physical feelings, mental feelings of fear.
#9. Avoid Toxic People
You must know who toxic people are and then start with distance yourself from them. If you don’t know this, you can’t separate toxic people from those who are difficult or who annoy you. These are ten types of toxic people. Stay away from them no matter what and try at all costs not to become one of them.
1. The Gossip
“Great minds discuss ideas, average ones discuss events, and small minds discuss people.” – Eleanor Roosevelt.
This kind of person derives pleasure from others’ misfortunes.
Talking and learning from interesting people is much better than wasting your time listening and speaking about the misfortune of others. If Gossip becomes your habit makes you will hurt other people, and you will feel gross.
2. The Temperamental
This kind of person has no control over their reactions and emotions. They will blame you that you’re the one causing their malaise. This makes you feel bad for them. Avoid them at all costs.
3. The Victim
It is hard to recognize this kind of person because you initially empathize with their suffering. They want to be seen as a victim all the time and don’t want to improve themselves or learn and practice something new. Because they want to stay as victims all the time, you will realize that they take your energy and motivation. You will never learn something from them or be motivated in their presence.
4. The Self-Absorbed
Around Self-absorbed people, you will start to feel completely alone. This happens because there is not a real connection between them and anyone else. You’re only a tool used to build their self-confidence.
5. The Envious
To envious people are always jealous of anything and anyone. Nothing is right for them. They don’t derive any satisfaction even when something great happens to them. No one can be the best in everything, and typically there are the better people around us. But we can’t trivialize our accomplishments. Your motivation for self-improvement will decrease. That is why it is dangerous to spend too much time with this kind of people.
6. The Manipulator
These kinds of people treat you as a friend, but they suck energy and time out of your life. They know everything about you, what makes you sad or happy, and use it as part of a hidden agenda. In your relationships with them, you will see after some period that they little or no giving you something but all the time take something from you.
7. The Dementor
This is a very negative person who can wake the worst feelings in others. These people are always pessimists, and they can inject concern and fear into the most common situations.
8. The Twisted
This kind of person feels satisfaction from the misery and pain of others. They are with you only to hurt you, to get something from you, or to make you feel bad. You can spot their intentions immediately, and you can get them faster out of your life.
9. The Judgmental
This kind of people tells you precisely what is and isn’t great. They have a way of making you feel terrible about the thing you’re most passionate about. They look down on others because they are not interested in learning from them. You will never be an intense, expressive person around them, so you should avoid them.
10. The Arrogant
This kind of person sees everything you do as a personal challenge. Arrogance always masks significant insecurities. Arrogant people have more cognitive problems more disagreeable and tend to be lower performers than the average person. They are a waste of your time. Spending time with them will decrease your self-improvement.
Now you know who toxic people are. Avoid them and distance them emotionally. They will decrease your self-confidence, your motivation, and your energy.
Read more => Smart Tips for Dealing with Toxic People
#10. More Activities that will help you a lot in your journey for self-improvement
Here is the list of 30 activities that will help you in your journey for self-improvement. Practice them in your life. You can’t practice all of them but try as more as you can. They will increase your self-confidence and your inner power.
1. Read a book every day.
2. Learn a new language.
3. Pick up a new hobby.
4. Take up a new course.
5. Create an inspirational room.
6. Level up your skills.
7. Wake up early.
8. Have a weekly exercise routine.
9. Get out of your comfort zone.
10. Acknowledge your flaws.
11. Get into action.
12. Learn from people who inspire you.
13. Quit a bad habit.
14. Cultivate a new habit.
15. Learn to deal with difficult people.
16. Learn from your friends.
17. Start a journal.
18. Get a mentor or coach.
19. Don’t waste most of your time on chat programs.
20. Learn chess (or any strategy game).
21. Stop watching TV.
22. Start a 30-day challenge.
24. Befriend top people in their fields.
25. Let go of the past.
26. Start a business venture.
27. Show kindness to the people around you.
28. Take a break.
29. Read at least 1 self-improvement article a day.
30. Be positive and smile most of the time
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